Category: Advice Goddess

Stare Way to Heaven 
I’m a girl in my early 20s and I recently started dating a guy I met in college. I’m very happy except for one issue: For as long as I’ve known him, he’s followed Instagram accounts of attractive women with provocative photos (ranging from half-naked to entirely naked), and he’ll “like” these pics. This really bothers me; however, I don’t want to be the overbearing girlfriend. Why does he do this and does it matter?  — Disturbed There’s a certain kind of man who’s drawn to the sight of half-naked pert breasts, and it’s the...

Blarenaked Ladies 
Whenever I feel like I click with someone, I want to be upfront and tell them I like them right away. My friends all say this is dating suicide (and that’s how it’s been working out for me). But if I’m looking for emotional honesty in a partner, shouldn’t I lead with it? —Confused If we’re arrested, we have a right to remain silent. Ideally, we don’t just confess, “That was me, robbing the 7-Eleven. See – there on the video – that’s my hair.” Best practices for criminals are also helpful for dating. In short, leaving...

Ancestry Dot Con I’m a single woman in my mid-30s with an older half-brother I haven’t seen in 20 years. He started calling me several years ago and we speak sporadically (always instigated by him). He’s married and refers to me as the aunt to his four children (whom I’ve never met). Recently, he asked whether they could all stay with me for a while. On the next call, he asked to borrow money. I have yet to give him answers. I can’t help but suspect he just intended to use me all along. Is there a way to...

Laddy Issues 
I’m a woman in my early 20s. My friends say I have “daddy issues” because I tend to date men in their 30s. (I do have a decent relationship with my dad). I find men in their 20s generally immature, slobby and inconsiderate with limited communication skills (and no desire to improve them). I can’t see how being frustrated with that means there’s something wrong with me, but I hear “daddy issues” so much I’m starting to wonder. —Annoyed Live with a 20-something man-child and you get the idea that guppies are on to something in how...

Emily Postal Bright red lipstick is my trademark. It makes me feel attractive and confident: ready to take on the world. A female friend criticizes me at parties about my leaving a lipstick mark on my glass, even when it’s a plastic cup. She says it’s disgusting, often when guys are listening. Is this her problem or bad etiquette I need to change? — Girl Unpowered According to annoyed caterers ranting online, lipstick on glass has staying power second only to nuclear garbage and nightmare party guests (“But there was no checkout time on the invitation!”) So, it’s possible...